Good feelings for others are like ointments that heal wounds and re-establish friendship and relationships. Good feelings are generated in the mind, are transmitted through your attitude and are reflected through your eyes and smile. Smiling opens the heart and a glance can make miracles happen.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is
inspiring in print but most people would agree that it’s very
challenging to live by. Turning a deaf ear to idle gossip, criticism or
insults requires a major shift in thinking. When I surround my mind
with thoughts of self-transformation and more importantly God’s
powerful words, I put myself in a secure state of introversion. Only
then am I able to build my self-esteem and the resistance to deflect
unworthy vibrations from the outside world.
The highest love is the Supreme Being’s (Supreme Soul’s) love. This is the love of the perfect spiritual being (soul), the perfect parent towards the imperfect child where the parent does not see the child’s weaknesses. Just as the flower turns each morning to absorb the light and warmth of the sun we too need to turn each day to absorb the light of truth and warmth of pure love from the Supreme Being, from the Source. This is not the God of a religious belief system, but the personal god that we all share, the one parent and friend that we all share. This is not a God as a concept, nor is God a belief. If we hold God just as a concept or belief in our minds, which is perhaps what we learned as children, we will never know him, never experience the greatest and deepest love. We cannot receive love from a belief just as we cannot have a real relationship with a concept. Instead, it is necessary to establish a personal relationship with God through a silent conversation of thoughts and feelings (to begin with). Hence the need to practice quietening a busy mind, the need to free our feelings from emotional disturbance. The Supreme Being is available to everyone but few of us know how or where to direct our attention. The connecting and absorbing of the love of God is a personal process called meditation, that never costs anything and can finally become a natural part of living each day
The Journey of Time
There are two laws governing the journey of time in this world.
• Firstly, the movement of time is cyclic i.e. without a beginning or an end. It is not linear i.e. a straight line with a beginning and an end, and
• Secondly, everything new undergoes degradation and becomes old at some point of time.
These two laws help us to understand the journey of time and why the world is in its present state.
We use time to attempt to measure change. One day is measured by the time taken by the earth to rotate around its axis. One day is our basic unit of measurement of time. One year is measured by the time taken by the earth to revolve around the sun. So the movement of time in our physical world is always cyclical. The cycle of the day, from dawn to daylight to dusk to night, is a movement that repeats with absolute constancy. A larger cycle is that of the seasons – from spring to summer to autumn to winter – which also repeat in the same way. When we become a detached observer and look at the ‘big picture’ of human history, we see an even larger cycle, the eternal world cycle of time – a cycle that moves from the day of humanity (where everything is positive on a physical as well as spiritual level) to the night of humanity and then back to the day of humanity to repeat again. But to believe and understand that picture completely, we first need to understand the second law of time and also connect it with the first law.
Tomorrow we shall explain the second law of time.
The right solution is found by the mind which is free from worry.
In Spiritual Service,
If you are ready to alter some of the current outcomes in your life then you will need to start with your beliefs. There are many categories. First there are ‘fatal beliefs’ – “I can’t, I’m not able, I never will.” These are the beliefs we have about ourselves, that set the boundaries and limitations of ourselves. Then there are ‘blocker beliefs’ – “My kid is stupid…my boss is an idiot…did you see that crazy person?” These are beliefs about others and, for however long they last, they block the flow of energy in a relationship. They are bricks in the walls we build between each other. Then there are ‘survival beliefs’ – “Get what you can while you can….there is not enough to go around…you have to look after number one.” These beliefs would have us live in fear and anxiety, otherwise known as insecurity. We can choose our beliefs. But first we may have to unchoose the ones that have crept in over the years, now living comfortably ‘below stairs’ and seem to be part of our inner furniture. If you want different outcomes in your life, change your beliefs first. Clean up down stairs!!
Who doesn’t appreciate loving relationships? The soul is nourished when there is mutual affection and regard between family and friends. Love of course is built on trust but before I establish secure relationships with others, there are two major entities I have to face everyday: ‘Myself’ and ‘God.’ Am I honest with my inner conscience and my God? When the intellect is clean of falsehood, I not only win the heart of God but of every soul in my contact.
Overcoming Possessiveness And Complexes In Close Relationships
We are all aware and we all experience also that close knit family relationships are a constant source of happiness and love. But these relationships, many a times, also possess the capacity of bringing along with this love and joy, many different negative shades of possessiveness and domination, and complexes and dependencies. These are widespread ailments existing in our family relationships today, but which can be cured. Meditation is a very positive healing process which can cure the causes of these ailments, which exist inside the human souls. Once the causes are cured through meditation, relationships become extremely healthy, which provide the self from others and from the self to others, only and only positivity energy, in the form of positive and empowering thoughts, feelings, words and actions.
A common sign of these diseases is lack of respect for people close to us. As a result of an un-respectful consciousness, we sometimes behave with our nearest and dearest ones, like maybe our spouse or children or siblings (brothers or sisters) or parents, in such an offensive manner which we normally never and would not ever even think of showing towards people with whom we are not very close. It’s not just a question of mannerisms, but of inner respect for the other. So often in families, a particular fixed order in relationships, positions of higher and lower, positions of senior and junior, become established, leading to feelings of superiority and inferiority, the effects of which start penetrating in the relationships e.g. the mother-in-law is very dominating and takes it for granted that she will be listened to by the son and daughter-in-law. Or an older brother or sister orders around a younger sibling, not giving him/her enough space in which to speak his or her own mind and express himself/herself, leading to an inferiority complex in the younger sibling. Or a wife is extremely possessive of the husband, not giving him enough personal freedom. Once established, these behaviors become permanent sanskaras and tend to be carried with us through life, so that even when we have left the original family relationships and circumstances in which these behaviors existed, we bring the same personality traits into our new relationships and circumstances.
The Journey Of Time
We also see in nature that everything new becomes old. Nothing ever starts old and becomes new. All material possessions including the human body, all political movements, religious movements, different philosophies etc. move from a state of newness to a state of oldness or decay. This is on a micro level. When we apply this principle and process on a macro level to the world as a whole, we can then easily understand why we live in an ‘old world’ – a world with scientific progress but overused, misused, tired and where many sectors are simply worn out. This process is sometimes known as entropy. The Law of Entropy states that a closed system moves from order to disorder or chaos, when the energy inside it reduces because it is not renewed or re-energized from a source outside that system. On a physical level, the sun sustains and re-energizes the systems of nature on the physical Earth every day. But in the recent past our exploitation of the world has started to become faster than the world’s ability to renew or re-energize. We now use the trapped energy in our physical world much faster than the sun can replace it.
Tomorrow, we shall explain how the Law of Entropy can be applied to spiritual energy and our virtues.
The one who understands God’s love is himself loving too.
In Spiritual Service,
Make every thought, word and deed such that the impact gives someone courage and zeal and enthusiasm.
When there is a task to be done we usually want to do it all alone. We
look for someone who can help us, but we are not really able to create
an environment of mutual cooperation. So we find ourselves doing the
task all by ourselves and hence find ourselves alone. So we find that
even a task which is not so difficult takes a lot of energy and
thoughts. We might also end up having negative thoughts when we don’t
experience the help that we should from others. When we are able to
recognize and use each and everyone’s specialties for the success of a
task, we are able to inspire cooperation in others. This will enable
them too to learn the beauty of cooperation. Then there is
automatically an environment of learning, where each and everyone make
efforts to learn from what the other person has. There is then no
negativity due to unfulfilled expectations, but there is absorption of
positivity, making us richer.
The Benefits Of Togetherness Over Isolation
Nowadays, there are more and more people who are choosing to live alone. Perhaps the reason for that are experiences in the past of pain, peacelessness, rejection, disappointment or failure when living together, in a relationship or even more than one relationship. As a result, the preference for living alone sets inside them. Perhaps, it is their alternative search for peace, happiness and success that leads them to make this decision. Also, the belief that if you live alone, you are free and you can do what you want, when you want and without having to explain yourself to anyone. But are we, as human beings, basically by nature, meant to live together or to live alone? Each human being has the need to belong and provide that feeling to others. You can belong to a family, a group of friends, a bunch of close school or college students, some office colleagues, a club, a community, a religious group etc. The mere presence of others; the participation, communication and collaboration with others; the assistance provided to others and received from them and the sharing of positive energy with others in a group; inspires and challenges us and others immensely. The same can happen, if we are staying alone, but to a limited extent. Greater inner spiritual empowerment takes place inside those who live and work together, not those who distance themselves from others. In a group, we broaden our limits and make our heart bigger when we do things for others that we wouldn’t do for ourselves.
Each human being is a source of love for others. It is a basic human nature to love and be loved, which is not possible unless there is some kind of unity or mutual belonging. Distancing or isolating oneself implies an absence of love, neither given or shared, neither received.
The Power of Silence
To enter into the experience of silence is not to be blank of thoughts or with a feeling of inner emptiness. True silence is the silence of the mind in which the generation of wasteful and negative thoughts has stopped and a feeling of quietness, serenity (peacefulness) and harmony is generated. When the mind is calm and becomes peaceful in this way, you develop the capacity to observe and separate yourself from the things that surround you and you see them from another perspective (angle). Silence connects you to the power that can take you beyond the influence of any negative experience and strengthens you to enjoy a positive and full life.
Victory is guaranteed to the ones who are constantly loving.
In Spiritual Service,
Is your sweetness superficial?
Commenting on things superficially, that is, saying something is good without understanding if it really is – is false sweetness.
Words based on the truth and those spoken from the heart hold real sweetness. Keep it real. Be genuine. Be sweet.
Very often I find myself leaving things to chance or to people. I tend
to take care of big things and become careless in little things. When I
leave things for others to take care and if they don’t do it, I become
disappointed – even if I have not delegated the task to be done. When I
recognize the fact that I am fully responsible for the task at hand,
both the big things and the little ones to be done, I’ll never be
careless. I’ll make it a point to take care of every little aspect to
the end. This is what will bring accuracy in my tasks and also enables
me to delegate the work well.
This world is a vast amphitheatre of action in which souls, in their respective bodies, play their various parts. Planet Earth exists in an extremely tiny portion of the physical universe and is governed by well-defined physical, chemical and biological laws.
In India, the world, which we inhabit, is called karma kshetra (the field of action), because it is here that we sow the seeds of actions and reap their fruits. It is here that the soul takes on flesh and bones and expresses the role that it has hidden within itself, causing variations in the material environment. The state of the material world at any given moment is a direct reflection of the state of consciousness of the human beings, which inhabit it. If there is peace and harmony within the soul this is reflected in nature. If there is conflict and confusion, nature responds accordingly.
It is a world of three dimensions of space and one of time. Its principal characteristics are sound, movement, colour and form. On this immense stage of deserts, forests, mountains and seas; illuminated by the sun, moon and stars; the world drama is enacted. In the drama, the actor-souls move from pleasure to pain, purity to impurity, happiness to sorrow, new to old, positive to negative. A point is finally reached when the process is renewed i.e. all souls and the elements of matter are purified by the Supreme Soul and they move back to their points of origin, only to start again. This is called the eternal world cycle.
Unloading Your Pressure Baggage (cont.)
Sometimes the pressure we are carrying is related to the situation we are in, sometimes we even carry a pressure of one situation in another situation i.e. it is unrelated pressure. All this continues throughout the day, day after day. What all this pressure does is increase the quantity of thoughts that we carry in our mind, which in turn reduces our efficiency and discriminating and judging power. The words and actions coming out from such a state of mind are improper and lacking in power, conviction and clarity. To ensure that we do not carry pressure baggage on our emotional back, as per our pressure equation (shared in the first message of this series), we need to change the incorrect beliefs that we carry, which are the root cause of our pressure and at the same time increase our ability to bear the different life forces. We carry thoughts that are determined by our belief of what success is and what failure is, what winning is and what losing is. Although we perceive such beliefs to be true, they are not true; they are like a facade that influence our perception of reality and generate in us feelings of pressure. The truth, on the other hand, is deeper than beliefs.
While meditation will serve as an important tool to increase our inner power to tolerate or resist life forces; spiritual knowledge, understanding and wisdom will serve as an immensely important tool which will help us in correcting our beliefs. So in times of pressure, stopping yourself for a minute and assessing your thoughts, then going backwards, and checking the beliefs which are the root cause of the thoughts at that particular moment and then changing them requires strength and clarity, which we will obtain through the medium of spiritual wisdom. Once the beliefs are corrected, the thought patterns will change. Thoughts like – * Maybe I won’t arrive on time, * If I don’t finish this assignment successfully, I will lose my next promotion, * If I lose my money in this financial investment, my family will stop appreciating me etc. which we create all the time – will be replaced by more positive thoughts of security, fearlessness, patience, peace, faith, determination, certainty etc.
To be a judge of the self means to be free from judging others.
In Spiritual Service,
Today, make sure whoever you come into contact with doesn’t go away empty handed. They should feel that they’ve gained something from the interaction.
Find something to share that will benefit them and make them feel better. It doesn’t have to be a physical object, it could be an encouraging word, a solution or even a positive thought or a good wish.
Usually, when in negative situations, we tend to search for happiness
outside. We either try to find a temporary source of happiness, a
diversion (which is more evasion) or we try to move away from that
situation. But this only postpones the dissatisfaction for some time.
Instead of trying to find happiness outside (which is anyway
temporary), we need to look within. We need to find what really
nourishes the spirit and gives us life. When we find our inner source
of happiness, it remains stable and unchanging even in the most chaotic
Taking Responsibility, Overcoming Guilt
If there are people or situations that lead you to fall over the same stone i.e. they lead you to make the same mistake, which was committed earlier, again, perhaps you will have to avoid them for a few days or a time, until you have strengthened yourself and have the inner security that they will not influence you. This is not running away; it is wise knowing your weaknesses and knowing that to get into similar situations with the same people is only to repeat the same errors and to worsen your wellbeing and that of the other. Trust in yourself. You can overcome these mistakes and stop making them. It is a question of loving yourself and living. Out of love, you stop hurting yourself and hurting the other.
Crying over past mistakes, you don’t mend anything. Open yourself to forgiveness. Raise the level of your thoughts so that they don’t keep you in a state of sadness and loss of hope. Don’t allow your inner judge to sentence (punish) you each time that you act, since that way you won’t feel free. Your judge that you carry within makes your life bitter; however, it is you that gives this judge the capacity to exist. If the inner judge is in harmony with our conscience, it is good, because it wants to protect us. On creating guilt it warns us that we have broken a rule of our code of beliefs, values or behaviors. It alerts us to the fact that we are acting against something important of ourselves. At those moments it helps us to observe and question what is real, true, important and even sacred in our life and for us.
Unloading Your Pressure Baggage
On a spiritual level, pressure can be defined as an external force acting on us divided by our ability to bear the force or resist it. Thus, force and resistance capacity are two variants in the equation of pressure. Everyone has different resistance capacities. Two people with different resistance capacities will experience different amounts of pressure on being subjected to the same magnitude of force. A feeling of pressure absorbs our freedom and gives us an experience of being ruled by an external entity. There are a lot of people who hold the belief that they can experience freedom only in the absence of an external force, which is almost impossible, since there is almost some force or the other exerted on the soul by ups and downs that takes place in the role that it plays through the physical body; which includes the physical body itself; profession; family; wealth, all types of relationships, etc. Even our own personality, thoughts, feelings, emotions etc. exert pressure on us at times.
Apart from the resistance capacity, the other variant in the equation of pressure is not only force but our perception of what the magnitude of the force is. This depends primarily on the beliefs that we carry. Two people will perceive the same situation in their role (as explained above) as forces of different magnitudes. While we hold the belief that life events, people and their expectations from us, are the forces that are the causes of our pressure, we will be able to do little to change the habit of being pressurized. It is we who pressurize ourself and allow the outside to pressurize us. We can either go through our life journey while experiencing feelings of being emotionally imprisoned, confused, rushed and hurried, or we can do the same with the power of faith and determination, at the same time remaining patient and maintaining our inner emotional stability. In some cases, some of us put pressure on ourselves, because we carry the belief that a bit of pressure is good in order to achieve what we want; it provides us with positive energy and motivates us. So this is an example of perceiving a force in our life, a force which does not exist. Such kind of pressure can deceive us and give us a feeling of being beneficial in the short term but it can have harmful effects on us in the long term. Some others might not experience this pressure because they do not carry this belief at all and don’t invite this force.
The power of stability enables to cross over all obstacles.
You cannot make yourself arrive faster than your
mode of transport. You cannot control what gets in the way…
Often, all you can do is have faith and believe
that everything happens in the right way at the right time…
We find we are becoming more and more negative with each passing day,
as the inputs of negativity from all sides in on its rise. Our normal
conversations and interactions are based on this negativity. So
without our conscious knowledge, we tend to become negative. It is
important for us to change the theme of conversation that we have with
others, and start talking about what life gives us. It gives us so
much that goes unnoticed. So we need to consciously change this so
that it creates an environment of hope and enthusiasm for the future,
also giving us a more positive view of the present reality.
The Consciousness Switchover
While we have explained in many of our past messages what body consciousness or attachment to physicality is and how it leads to a creation of lot many different types and shades of vices or weaknesses which tend to creep into our sanskaras, thoughts, feelings, attitudes, words, actions, etc. as a result of which we lose access to our pure, positive inherent nature; another process of subtle attachment to physicality that we get drawn into regularly, which leads to the same result, but on a more subtle level, is karma or action consciousness where there is no over consciousness of the physical body but one gets so engrossed in the role one is playing that one becomes role conscious and experiences bondage and burden and mental freedom is lost. As a result our inner comfort and contentment levels drop, others tend to become discontent with us and we become discontent with them, our relationships suffer, the efficiency in our actions drop, even our physical body is affected and we don’t know the reason for the same.
Most of us will experience body consciousness once in a while but we experience karma consciousness every day, something which we don’t perceive as negative but it gives a negative result because it is a subtle form of body consciousness, which can accumulate inside us over a period of time and cross the boundaries of subtlety and take a gross form. What is a simple solution for the same? A consciousness switchover from role or karma consciousness to soul consciousness at different points in the day and then returning to playing the part of karma with a revised consciousness. The role remains the same and is to be played, the soul cannot exist without it, but the consciousness is changed.
In tomorrow’s message, we will mention a few very simple methods which help us in doing that.
Refreshment for the Mind
Silence is a great therapy for healing the self. If we remain very quiet and concentrate, we save a lot of outward energy, with the result that we act and speak less. When that energy is saved, then we are able to turn inwards and even heal our physical body. On a daily basis, the mind needs to go into a quiet space for refreshment and reflection; in much the same way as the body needs regular breaks for rest and nourishment. Refreshment occurs when the mind is able to recharge itself, that is, to re-energize and to have the strength to remain positive, light and creative. Reflection (looking inwards) is the time we give ourselves to refine our internal understanding of external situations so that our interaction with others is of the highest quality. Through reflection, we can change the way we think, feel and interact. We change the way we are voluntarily and without pain.
Spiritual knowledge without silence is like a bird trying to fly with only one wing.
Silence empowers an individual’s capacities and enables the recognition and release of their unique potential. In today’s world, silence is as necessary for the mind as oxygen is for the body. We need that spiritual breath that sustains our life in a way that is meaningful and fulfilling.
To be a creator means to use all treasures for a positive contribution.
In Spiritual Service,
Our conscience is our in-built awareness of what’s true and what the ‘right’ thing to do is. When we do the ‘wrong thing,’ and go against our conscience, our conscience will nudge us and remind us that we’re our of alignment without truth. At this point, we can listen to our conscience and re-orientate ourselves. There are times we may ignore it or just not hear it because it’s drowned out by all that noise in our heads. Next time before you jump into action, just – shhh! – become quiet and listen to your conscience to discover what its saying.
It is easy to speak negatively when we do not like something about
someone. We first react to them in our mind and so tend to get angry.
Our words and behaviour would then naturally be negative and insulting
too. This further widens the gap and breaks the relationship. When
someone does something undesired, we first need to try and understand
his behaviour. Every person has a reason to behave the way he does. If
we can’t understand at that time, we at least need to give it time.
The more we react to the other person and his behaviour, the greater
the distance that is created. So we need to begin the first step of
positivity by recognizing some positivity in him.
Resisting False Attractions In Actions
All that glitters (shines) is not gold. Life presents you with many illusionary scenes, scenes in which what may be visible may not be the truth. These scenes cause desires to be born inside you to achieve something unnecessary for your prosperity or other types of fulfillments. These can be illusions that make you believe that you will gain something from a situation or person, without the same being true. Thus, you waste time going down a path that not only leads you to disappointment; but you also waste the resource of your thoughts and energy and as a result you tire yourself out emotionally and mentally.
If the intellect is polluted, you make incorrect judgments and are easily deceived by situations or people. Thus, you will make incorrect choices, dishonest or illogical decisions. You will justify dishonesty and improper actions and you will be incapable of differentiating between the real and the imaginary. A person with a pure, clear, clean and powerful intellect will act with honesty and sincerity. When your intellect is polluted, you may act against your own conscience or against your better judgment; you also may be insensitive. A person with a doubtful intellect will always justify a dishonest act. Meditation is the process of purifying and cleaning the intellect, because in meditation we connect with the purest intellect, the intellect of the Supreme Soul or God. Meditation is also a process of inner awakening and strengthening of your conscience. Being awake means to realize, and being strong means to act according to what you have realized.
Mind, Intellect and Personality
Just as electrical energy produces heat, sound or light depending on the device through which it passes, similarly, the energy of consciousness functions through three different but closely connected entities, the mind, intellect and personality.
With the power of the mind, one imagines, thinks and forms ideas. The non-physical mind should not be confused with the heart, the physical organ that maintains blood circulation.
The intellect understands, reasons, memorizes, discriminates and makes decisions. The non–physical intellect should not be confused with the physical brain, which is the physical focus of the nervous system.
Habits and sanskaras are all embedded in the soul in the form of impressions as a result of every action performed. The most fundamental feature of every soul, its personality, is determined by such stored impressions.
Honesty brings success in relationships.
In Spiritual Service,
Greet life with enthusiasm and confidence by constantly maintaining the awareness of how cherished you are.
We usually expect from others and rarely think of giving. We are also
not able to give unconditionally. We normally think of what we are
going to get out of giving. So we lose the joy of giving. We usually
don’t get what we expect and when we don’t, we usually experience
negative feelings. There is true joy in giving. When we find someone in
negativity and if we are able to recognize what they need, we can give.
When we give we are able to have the satisfaction of giving. This
enables us to get in touch with our innate qualities and we are able to
use these qualities for the benefit of everyone.
Keep a daily chart for one week for the questions below, the answers to which will help you manage emotions of anger, irritation, frustration, etc. more effectively. Review your progress at the end of each day and then at the end of one week. Having made your observations, make improvements for the next week. Keeping this chart for a month, will help you manage and overcome your anger much better.
1. During which event today did you get angry or irritated…even a little?
2. What was the type of your thoughts at that time?
3. Which negative thought/thoughts contributed to your stress the most?
4. What positive thoughts helped you to regain your calmness and composure?
5. How long did it take to regain your calmness?
6. Why did it take so long to regain your peace?
7. What would you do differently and more appropriately if the same scene happened tomorrow?
In meditation l begin to think about my true identity. l let thoughts about the soul and its qualities fill my mind. Initially it doesn’t matter how fast the thoughts are arising as long as they are moving in the right direction. lf my thoughts wander away, gently, l bring them back again to peaceful thoughts of the self. As l become involved in the experience of such thoughts, they will gradually start to slow down and soon l will be able to savour (taste) them. Just as when l am given something special to eat, l eat it slowly, appreciating each mouthful (its flavour and texture), so I begin to appreciate the experience contained in each positive thought. The simple phrase, ‘I am a peaceful soul’, comes to life as l begin to experience it.
To transform the self means to receive blessings.
In Spiritual Service,
When you talk to yourself in your mind, which self do you address? And how? Usually people do not talk to their divinity, but to the most superficial aspects of their everyday personality. And often its a stream of fears, complaints and mindless repetition of old things. If we talked that way to another human being, we would have to apologise. Learning to talk properly to the self is a spiritual endeavour. Thoughts from the past and worries about the future do not create good conversation. Instead learn to talk to your mind as if it were a child. Talk to it with love. If you just force a child to sit down, he won’t. A good mother knows how to prompt her child into doing what she wants. Be a good mother to your mind, teach it good, positive thoughts so that when you tell it to sit quietly, it will. Love your mind. Stay happy.
The method for easy progress is to claim the blessings of all.
Sometimes we find ourselves making a lot of effort and putting in a
lot of energy for getting something done. Yet we find that the results
are not according to the efforts that we have put in. We then begin to
wonder it happens so. To be able to give happiness to those around is
to increase the speed of my progress. For this I need to pay special
attention to keep giving happiness and not giving sorrow to those
around me. This brings me their blessings and these subtle wishes
bring me happiness and success easily.
Seeing Yourself In A Positive Light
Sit down in silence, relax, breathe deeply and create a space within you… Now feel yourself looking at your inner being, with your third eye, in a different light… Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, failures, what you lack inside, what is lacking in your life, look out for what beautiful treasures, your qualities, specialties, talents, etc. you have inside you, look at the positive aspects of your life and bring them into your conscious awareness… Becoming ‘self-aware’ in this way, realize, you have so much to offer, so much to give to others…
Now, create a beautiful image of yourself where you see yourself as free… free of negative feelings for yourself and others, with a pure heart and a peaceful mind… Feel and see your inner greatness, discover that you are special and unique… Come back to being your own friend… Love yourself, accept yourself and respect yourself… Appreciate and value the qualities of others…
Feel fine being yourself, in that space, in that room that there is within you, where you are secure and safe, where you can enjoy the marvelous thing that is your own company, the company of a positive being…
Be awake and full of life… you are happy… at peace… feeling peace… sharing peace… feeling free… Having seen yourself in a positive light, prepare yourself to enter into action, maintaining your stage of self-esteem…
Emotional Joy And Emotional Sorrow
We commonly become emotional, either in times of sorrow e.g. at being separated from a loved one, at experiencing failure in an external event, on hearing a negative news, etc. or in times of joy e.g. when our child or spouse or even pet performs a warm act, while watching a movie, etc. While we have always believed that it is absolutely normal or natural to become emotional and some of us even believe that it is good to let go of our emotions and crying once in a while makes us lighter and stronger; on a spiritual level, becoming emotional comes under the realm of dependencies and dependencies always weaken us. This is because when we become emotional, instead of influencing our self on our own, we allow something or someone outside our self to influence us. We bring that something or someone or some event outside our self, inside, in front of the eye of our mind, attach our self to it, and lose our self in it i.e. we let the image hijack our internal world in a way, as we become subservient to it. As a result our thoughts, feelings, emotions, words, actions are influenced in a big way by the image. This is a spiritual definition of becoming emotional. Passing on the remote control of my internal world to the outer world in this way is a sign of a not so strong internal self.
So what does one do instead? Instead of creating images of external events and people inside our minds and being influenced by them, we still watch these scenes, but instead of losing our self in them and taking from them, we contribute to them by giving them our internal energy, but at the same time make sure that while doing that, we are detached from them and not over-involved emotionally. Internal energy is given in the form of appreciation and love if it’s a positive scene and power, compassion and co-operation if it’s a negative scene, so as to help the scene to be corrected or resurrected. This is influencing instead of being influenced. This is a more empowering experience. In this way we regain the control over our inner world and rise above such emotional dependencies.
Message for the day
To be seated on the seat of self-respect is to use virtues in life.
An angel’s face is still because there are no lies inside. Truth makes it a straight, simple face whose beauty lies not in its form but in the feeling it gives you.
Where there is peace there is patience.
My usual reactions to the stimuli around me are programmed, so I tend
to be impulsive or react quickly to situations, I don’t give myself
time to think or understand. Because of this lack of patience I lose
out on many things and I don’t realise that I am losing out too. At
all times I need to make a conscious effort to keep my mind peaceful
and calm, more so when there is a difficult situation. With this state
of mind I am able to deal with situations patiently because peace
brings power which in turn brings patience.
Taming (Conquering) The Mind
In ancient times, the mind was understood to be extremely difficult to control. It was said to be like the wind: you could never catch it, or hold it – it went where it wished and no human being could become its master. In other instances, it was said that the mind was like an elephant: extremely powerful but equally gentle and patient, able to do a lot of work for its master. However, when an elephant turns wild, its gentleness and patience completely disappear and it destroys and damages everything in its path. When the mind is under stress, it resembles a wild elephant; it has no control and cannot be controlled.
Taming the mind is regarded as a great art requiring time, attention, practice and, above all, a sincerity of heart where individuals truly want to change their way of thinking. To relax, to be positive, to be peaceful and kind all require a change in our thought patterns and this can only happen when we look deeply within. However hard they try, other people cannot change us; we must have personal realization and the desire to make changes through our own effort. Permanent and positive change cannot be imposed from outside; it is something that we choose.
Overcoming The Loss/Separation Of A Loved One
Living trapped in the memory of a loved one who left us, or in the memory of a situation that no longer exists, or in the memory of someone who is alive but who we no longer see (since we have physically separated), does not allow us to enjoy the present moment with freedom.
What is required during the mourning period is the capacity to make peace with the memories recorded in our consciousness. It is to reach a point where these memories do not upset us or cause us pain. It is to acknowledge that the memory of what was and no longer is, no longer generates desires, dissatisfaction, frustration or sadness.
You don’t get over the mourning of a loved one or a lost child, because you allow the memory to continue alive, in a way that it invades the consciousness and imprisons the soul. The memory suffocates the present; there exists a desire to relive a past that no longer has the possibility of existing.
Tomorrow, we shall look at some at the questions that arise in the mind in a mourning period.
Message for the day
When the mind is healthy the body is healthy too.